Candice Wu 0:00

You’re tuning into the continuation of The Deep Mystery of Life, where I talk about my past life experience unfolding, and the magic of this mystery, of the experience of life. In this episode, I talked about meeting a human from the past life as well as a horse and the land, the land that helped me in this experience. It’s unbelievable on some levels, and that belief is everything. It’s magical.

Candice Wu 0:42

Hello, and welcome. You’re listening to the Embody Podcast, a show about remembering and embodying your true nature, inner wisdom, embodied healing, and self-love. My name is Candice Wu and I’m a holistic healing facilitator, intuitive coach, and artist, sharing my personal journey of vulnerability, offering meditations and guided healing support, and having co-creative conversations with healers and wellness practitioners from all over the world.

Candice Wu 1:17

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Candice Wu 2:19

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Candice Wu 2:58

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Candice Wu 4:00

Hello, and welcome back. I woke up really dizzy this morning, and in the past, I might have like in a way, way, way past I might have just chalk it up to something weird I ate or something going on. I can’t quite explain or maybe worried that I have some medical condition, but luckily, with Peter Levine’s research and studies and training in somatic experiencing, it really guided me to see that as a dissociation experience, as an experience where my nervous system was overwhelmed and helped myself ground and come down from that, and back into my body. I could see clearer and it’s not completely gone at the moment, but I do feel much more embodied and resourced.

Candice Wu 5:00

So, with that, I wonder how you’re all doing. As you tune in today, just take a moment to check in with your body and feel what’s going on inside. I like to ask myself the question, how much of me is here right now? How much am I here, right now? How available Am I? It doesn’t matter how much, it just helps you to gauge where you’re at, so that you can either support yourself in grounding or you can acknowledge where you’re at and be okay with that or see what’s needed, and what if this became your practice daily, like before you approach your work or before you connect with a friend or loved one or a family member or a client if you have clients. How much of me is available here?

Candice Wu 6:18

So, to give you a little update, I am in Granville, Ohio at Denison University, and I’m thrilled and just delighted to be a part of Molly Shanahan Mad Shak Choreography’s process in their development of their peace for the upcoming years. They’re working on a piece that is called EX/BODY, and it’s the expression of life and movement through trauma and through with trauma and in the investigation of movements that arise from traumatic experience. It was so excited to be invited into the process as a somatic healer and consultant to the group to support them in their creative process and their nervous systems, in having the capacity and the resilience, and the navigation of the process for each individual which is so personal, and group-related all at once.

Candice Wu 7:29

I couldn’t have even imagined a better position for me to be in, a role for me to be in that combines all the things, not all the things but many things I love — dance, collaboration, trauma work, sharing about trauma and working with people and experiences, and supporting self-expression and awareness. So, here’s a shout out to you, Molly Shanahan and all the dancers in Mad Shak choreography, I’m so happy to be here with you and I’m honored.

Candice Wu 8:04

And actually, this experience is part of what catalyzed what I want to talk about today in the unfolding of my past life. So, being here in Ohio, I decided to head out into nature and go camping by myself for about four days before this week, residency with the dance movement group, and I’m not sure when I would have done it otherwise, probably sometime soon, anyway, but I was so excited to go to Hocking Hills, Ohio, because my brother and my sister had gone there, and came back with just nourishment and of course beautiful photographs that I just couldn’t resist and wanted to see myself. So, it gave me the perfect chance to go camping, and just immerse myself. I had no idea what was going to unfold.

Candice Wu 9:08

So, if you’re new to the podcast or if this is your first time hearing about the specific past life story that I’ve been telling over the last maybe month, actually, I began telling this story awhile back, and I want to just tune you into the podcasts that I began telling this story so that if you do feel inspired to tune into those to get the full story, you can take a listen. So, I actually begin telling this story about my past life, about this specific past life because there are many in the episode CandiceWu.com/ep49, which is called Past Life Trauma: Unfolding Freedom.

Candice Wu 9:56

And in this episode, I talked about how tuning into our past lives and letting that reveal can unfold freedom for us in this life now as well as strengthen resource, and I begin talking about a past life in which I got on a horse and took off, and I got in trouble, and I died afterward. And I don’t remember I may have said that, at that time that I think I died while on the horse, but I do remember, perhaps at that time realizing that it wasn’t the horse that kills me or being on the horse, it had something to do with someone else or something else that hurt me or something that happened, and at that time, I remember asking my inner being, “Do I need to know the full story?” And the answer was no, it just wasn’t important. It was specifically to, at that time, important for me to know about being on a horse, and how horses had connected in my past life, but the rest wasn’t so essential at that time. So, you can find that episode at CandiceWu.com/ep49, and that’s about past life trauma.

Candice Wu 11:15

And the next episode where I talk about this past life thread is the episode about a month ago, and it’s called The Deep Mystery of Life, where a pain in my elbow allowed me to go deeper with myself and reveal this whole past life experience of me being a young girl shifting into rite of passage as a woman and feeling so big, in a sense, like big of my personality and fear, stubborn and having my own ways, and feeling like the women of the tribe wanted me to do this rite of passage, of course, our specific way, and I just didn’t want to, I wanted it my way, and it just was a battle in a way. And one night, I decided to go off by myself on my horse and build my own fire and do my own rite of passage, when I got attacked and raped by a white man.

Candice Wu 12:19

So, that whole podcast tells the story of what my connection with horses meant at that time, and how that’s related, my experience of feeling abandonment with father figures that was long before this life, but also manifested very strongly in this life that related to that past life. It was a bit of a confusion that got cleared up as well as my wound, and feeling of victimhood with white man in a specific, violent sort of way, and how that all tied in with my elbow and my uterus, and my feeling that something was taken away from me, which was part of my creative life force that seemed to have been directly attacked by white man.

Candice Wu 13:17

So, if you’re interested in hearing that you can tune into CandiceWu.com/deepmystery or CandiceWu.com/ep84. And the most recent episode, Episode 86, is The Shadow Side of Empathy: When Empathy Goes Awry. This episode has a main focus on the shadow side of empathy, but in the very beginning, I talked a little bit about the progression of where the knowing of my past life had taken me, and that is to come into my ferocity, and to know how to use a knife if I’m going to have to, because the whole past life experience that I described in Episode CandiceWu.com/ep84, with The Deep Mystery of Life, originated from a camping experience where I was out on the rustic side of camp and nobody else was there, and I just feared no one would be able to hear me if something happened.

Candice Wu 14:18

I was sleeping with a knife in my hands, and I would have no idea how to use a knife. If someone came and attacked me, I mean, just the most basic like grab and stab or whatever, but to someone who is trained or is very violent and aggressive, like I just probably wouldn’t stand a chance. So, the last episode, that was a solo episode, in Episode 86, I talked a bit about what I was doing at that time to strengthen myself, and to fine-tune some of these skills that my past life self was asking me to look at, including archery and staying connected with horses. So, you have those three episodes, Past Life Trauma, Episode 49, at CandiceWu.com/ep49, you’ll have the main episode, Deep Mystery of Life that tells the more of the fullness of the story at /ep84, and then you have this last one at CandiceWu.com/ep86.

Candice Wu 15:36

And now, this is part two of The Deep Mystery of Life, and I just, who would ever think that more of this past life would reveal itself, and yet, it has almost every single day, it’s like a bits and pieces, and then some days, some huge downloads of information come to me. And that primarily was due to being on the land. So, again, if I would have asked myself like 10 years ago or even five years ago, if this was real or believable, I would probably, hands down, say probably not. No, this is, maybe you just made this up so you feel better or I don’t know, some logic to describe this unfolding of events, but in my willingness to believe and to trust, I’ve opened up so much knowing and love, and parts of myself that I wouldn’t have known were there. Had I not just leaned in and suspended the disbelief that I had, more and more dots keep unfolding, and it gives me so much more fullness in myself.

Candice Wu 17:08

Things click and make sense about who I am or who I feel I am or the things that have been important to me or that I just noticed in my life, and why? Why do I notice certain things? And this story just captures that all, like this giant puzzle piece, just got put in place that has been missing for my whole life. Well, probably, just because I wasn’t listening, but I’m listening now. So, let’s jump in.

Candice Wu 17:43

So, in the thread of this story of this past life unfolding, I last spoke about wanting to take unarmed self-defense and sharp weapons, and archery, and I am in the process of doing all that. The first class I took with was unarmed self-defense, and I would rename it as unarmed self-defense offense because it’s so, it really taught me to step into my ability to be aggressive and violent, just so that I have that capability if I needed to.

Candice Wu 18:20

Somatic Experiencing has helped with that a lot. There are practices and ways that you can use play and animal noises, and growling, and the continuation of a fighting movement, a scratching, a kicking all of that has been really powerful to restore, the sense of protection and ability to protect myself and fight if I have to. And yet doing it that way, was like a slow-motion way, it provided the safety in my body to experience and navigate the feeling of it without just going into overwhelm and being dissociated from my body, and in the unarmed self-defense class, I found that doing it at like super-fast pace, the way that one would need to, if under attack, like doing a palm strike, you know, several times as fast as I could, to, you know, get someone to protect themselves, and so that I could run, that was a totally different experience.

Candice Wu 19:36

I’ve had this experience once before, but in this case, I think more of myself is present, and I have had a lot more of my trauma healed so that I can really utilize this experience for myself. And so, during the class, it was two hours long, about an hour and a half through I was like, “Oh my gosh, I just have to sit down I think I’m going to throw up.” But I really, I knew what it was, I wasn’t really going to throw up, although it is possible that I could have, but I was really aware that my body was having a whole trauma experience. It was that this movement and fullness in ferocity, fullness in like a fight mode was turning on some other parts of me that needed to fight in the past or that had gone numb and into overwhelm, and shut down and not fought. So, all of that was moving through my body.

Candice Wu 20:41

So, with a few minutes of being with the feeling, orienting and noticing my surroundings, talking with my teacher who was not particularly trauma-sensitive, but he also gave the space for me to do what I needed to do, with some self-touch, especially with my legs and moving my legs a little bit, I was able to feel that feeling of nausea pass, and it was ready again to move forward. So, that was just very potent, and I want to mention that because if you’re out there trying self-defense or certain experiences that allow your body to move in certain ways, even dance or karate or kickboxing, sports, lifting weights, that can bring up the implicit memory of the body that activates the nervous system into that remembrance of something incomplete or an experience where your body and nervous system was overwhelmed or traumatized, and so, to be really supportive of yourself, to know the tools of how you can ground or move through the experience.

Candice Wu 22:11

I mean, that can take years, but to always know you have the resource of looking around you and looking at things that feel safe or good to look at. That’s called orienting and somatic experiencing, and looking for pleasure that can help resource you. So, your resource can be inside your body or outside, and when it’s inside your body that might be looking for a place in your body that feels okay or neutral, feeling touch on your body.

Candice Wu 22:46

Okay, so after these experiences, I was at the stable with the horse that I’m usually with, Sunny, and I meet this woman who has a horse she’s about to sell named Cloud Walker, and I look at this horse, she’s a paint horse. So, she’s like white with black beautiful spots, kind of look like cow spots, and I didn’t think much of it at first, but then immediately, this friend of mine, she became friends of mine. I didn’t know her she was a perfect stranger that day. She said, “You can come and hang out with Cloud Walker and work with her or ride her anytime you want,” and I was just floored. How was this happening?

Candice Wu 23:38

And so, a couple of days later, I was walking around the stables again, all the horses are out in the pasture, but inside there are stalls and they each have their names on them. And I was looking for a halter and rope to find Cloud Walker, and I see her name tag on her stall and it says CW and I do this double take because those are my initials, CW, and that just, you know could just be a coincidence, but in that moment, I was like, what I often tune into names, and somehow sometimes, when names are familiar to me or my name, I pay attention.

Candice Wu 24:34

So, that day I went home with the question, do I know Cloud Walker? Is that a message to me? Do I already know her? Is she the horse from that past life? So, immediately, I went into this mode of — what has this horse been telling me? Where have I not been listening or “Okay, I’m listening now”. What do you want me to know? And I did that both with her, and when I was at home and tuning into her energy, so, tuning into her psychically, without putting too much pressure on her, but just opening. So, I flashed back in my mind to these moments where I was with her, when we were doing some groundwork, and what I was asking her to do was to walk in a certain direction, and to begin to tune into my communication with her, where if I shifted my energy, she would go faster or slow down.

Candice Wu 25:48

So, interestingly, she would do just fine with us going to my left in a circle, when I’d asked her to go to the right, was like, it was like she looked at me like, “Why asked me to do this, what are we doing? And then instead of going, she would get really close to me and put her face like head to head with me, and when we’d get this close, it would be just so peaceful. I loved it, and it was funny because I had this other agenda, I wanted to keep on doing this groundwork thing, and she was just like, No, I just want to be with you. I just want to be with you. That’s all, and then she would put her head down and be like, ”Well, I’ll also want to eat, I’m hungry.”

Candice Wu 26:48

And so, as I thought about what is this horse trying to tell me, is this, in fact, the horse from my past life? Without putting too much pressure on that question, I heard that message, I just want to be with you, and it felt like a really comfortable, peaceful, harmonious connection, that was instant. There was a lot of resonance between us, and I didn’t particularly feel that with other horses, but somehow it didn’t strike me or hit me hard in a way that I thought it might, if it were my soul horse from another life. So, I just didn’t recognize it, and as I felt into this whole, I want to be with you. I felt I wanted to be with her and I just started crying, and it was in that moment of recognition that we wanted to be together and that we had been together, we know each other, and it was beautiful, and I do feel she was an is a horse that I have known for hundred hundreds of years.

Candice Wu 28:02

So, if I was Native American, I feel that that was a life, that was at least two or 300 years ago, like somewhere in between that, and the resonance keeps coming to me that I was an Ojibwe, and I’ve just been learning more about that and what that means, and as this is all unfolding with Cloud Walker and Ojibwe, I have this conversation with a person that has been messaging with me back and forth on Instagram.

Candice Wu 28:43

Ever since that past life podcast, that was like, over six months ago, when I was in Spain, maybe it was eight months ago now. I believe this person who is now my friend had been messaging me and just say that she’s been looking at her past lives, and not just that, but I had just appreciated how she’d been engaging with what I’ve been sharing in my podcast, and it has inspired her in many ways in her own process. And what I didn’t realize was what unfolded in our conversation, when we finally got on WhatsApp together. I had a sudden knowing or feeling that I’ve known her in a past life, and she said, “Yes, I have been Native American before, too.” And when she said that, I realized, we were in that life together. I believe we were in that life together. And I said it and she didn’t think I was crazy. She actually felt it, too, and had all these images come up then that I was around a fire before I died and that she was a younger friend of mine. We were almost like sisters.

Candice Wu 30:08

Everything she was saying, and even hearing her voice. I just cried. I just, I had no idea this conversation would go there. There was a complete connection in my whole being and this knowing it was the feeling like I had found my friend again. Her name is Emily, and she has given me permission to share about her and about my connection with her in this experience of our past life, and how cool is it that we get to talk about this past life that we had together and put together the pieces that feel right. And as this all kept going and evolving, she had received lots of downloads of information and kept sharing with me as well as me to her.

Candice Wu 31:09

And one day, I’m listening to her voice message on WhatsApp about a whole other piece of information that she had received, and this was her side of the storytelling me that her friend had died, which was me, and I’m just crying as I’m hearing this, because I know it’s me, and then she talks, went on to talk about that she had a daughter and more tears from me. And then that she had two boys who were twins, and that they died. And as I’m hearing this, I’m sort of blasted to the present moment when in the seats diagonally behind me, a boy who seemed really overstimulated, and he also perhaps had maybe some Asperger’s or autism. I actually don’t know, for sure, but he made this sound, and it was so perfect. Something had upset him on his laptop, and he made the sound like this, “Huuuuuuuu, huuuuuuu.”

Candice Wu 32:30

And that sound, it made sense. It felt like that was the sound of the grief and perhaps this healing song that would be sung in the tribe, and it was so cool that it just happened in this way that this boy could probably feel the energy of what I was feeling because I was grieving, I was grieving, having lost my friend, and the feeling that my friend had lost me in that life, and that she had been dealing with so much sadness and grief, of loss, not just me, but the boys that she had lost the babies. And the feeling that I had missed that of her life, but in a way, kind of knew also that that was what she was going through. I don’t have any recollection of watching over her or seeing that, but when she says that there is a confirmation in my body, and that is what continues to happen, this confirmation in my body, not just the emotion, but then there’s a deeper knowing that’s beyond the emotion that comes through, and the emotion is very healing and completing.

Candice Wu 33:43

So, now I’ve told you about my horse and my friend that I have known for hundreds of years, and in this life where I got killed, and I’m sure that I’ve met other people that I’ve known in a solo life, and I just never really could recognize the specifics. I just would kind of chalk it up to, yeah, I’m sure I knew them in a past life. There’s a soul of recognition, and to know the specific details of our experiences is incredible, and I believe, and it seems so does my friend Emily, we believe that we have gone through several lives together, and that perhaps the life with the witch, that was the life that I was a witch, she was also witch. I believe that we could have been together at that time, and I don’t have specifics on that at the moment, but I trust that will be revealed to me if it needs to be and when it’s time.

Candice Wu 34:50

So, just a little sidebar that integrates into the story before I tell the rest is that I received an Akashic reading from Venessa Rodriguez. She was on the podcast early on, and you can find her at CandiceWu.com.venessa, that’s VENESSA, and she does Akashic readings combined with nutrition and feeding your wild, feeding your soul, feeding your body, and I love her work. So, I felt like receiving an Akashic reading about this past life, and what my uterus and my body were going through at that time was going to be supportive for me. And what was revealed through that reading through my guides, and through her senses was that, in fact, this past life more was going to be revealed., and that using pine, and other indigenous plants as medicine might be healing from my body, and there was a lot more of information that really supported me, but I won’t go into that today.

Candice Wu 36:12

But that’s the lead up to me heading out to Ohio from Michigan. I’ve got my whole car packed with all my camping gear, and we’re going to spend three nights in Ohio in the Hocking Hills area before this dance residency consulting experience that I’m having right now. And I knew that day, that I was heading out, I just wanted to hang out with the horses. I had just come back from Milwaukee for from a weekend Milwaukee and I needed to go see Cloud Walker and Sunny. And so I spent like way longer than I wanted to in a way out there with the horses, but I just trusted my timing.

Candice Wu 37:03

By the time I got out to the Hocking Hills area, I arrived at about 12:30 am on a Friday night, and I mapped myself to Knox Acres Campgrounds. When I got there through Google, I ended up in a neighborhood that seemed a little creepy in the dark, that had no reception, phonewise, and there was no campsite. Google was like, “You’ve arrived!” And I was like, “Well, I don’t see the campsite.” So, I backtracked and turn around, and I went to the Hocking Hills State Grounds Campsite, which my sister had recommended me not to go, but at that time, at almost 1 am now, I didn’t know where to go, I didn’t play on well, and this was an easy “go-to” given that I had no cell phone reception.

Candice Wu 38:07

So, I get there. It doesn’t look great. It looks like a football field, and almost like a tailgate, and I’m not even quite sure that any of the spaces are available. So, I go back up to the front registration area, and I sit there for a few minutes trying to see if I can receive any phone service or if I remember where some of the other sites were. And I’m just sitting there, it is one in the morning, and suddenly, an officer pulls up next to me and says, “Hey, do you need some help? We are completely full here tonight. So, there are no sites available.” And I was like, “Ah, yes. I need help.”

Candice Wu 38:54

So, I gave him my scenario of you know, where I planned to go and asked if he had any other recommendations, and he finally said he had never heard of Knox Acres, and then he finally said why don’t you go to Top of the Caves. It’s just this and that way. Usually, they’re walking sites. If not, come back and find me. I should be around here. I’m working the night shift. So, I asked him what his name was, and he felt incredibly grateful. His name was Chad, which is my brother’s name, and so, I felt that moment of resonance again that, “Yes, this is a good sign I’m being supported right now.” Not just by him specifically, but I felt like by something beyond. Things were just unfolding in this really cool way.

Candice Wu 39:49

So, I go to the Top of the Caves Campsite, drive around, and this is in fact better. Still not, you know what I’m used to in Michigan, but I couldn’t find something, and finally, I arrived at this location in the campgrounds that seemed just perfect. It was the spot that was of right before the trailhead, which still was. it’s like the most private spot I could find, but also public enough that if something scary were to happen, that I could get help, and people would hear me. And as I looked up, there were all these pine trees, and that was just perfect. After Vanessa’s reading with me, it was like, “This is the spot, and the other spots didn’t have that.” So, I knew it was the right one. I just unpacked my whole car and set up my tent, and it was wonderful.

Candice Wu 41:00

So, the next day, I leisurely get up and decide to go to the closest cave, which was Ash Cave, and as I get out there, I’m just enjoying the hike, like any regular old hike that I’ve been on, even though this is gorgeous, and I’m just taking all that in, but what really got my attention was when I saw feathers on the ground, and I started to pick them up. I know you’re not really supposed to pick up feathers, and you know, for fear of viruses and things like that, and parasites or mites. I was being very careful and put them in a container, and then I saw a whole bunch of more feathers and I was like, “Whoa, where did these come from?” And I saw these feather-like, wings. If you jump on Instagram or the link to this podcast at CandiceWu.com/deepmystery2, I’ll post a picture of the feathers that I saw, and the bird that I saw next.

Candice Wu 42:12

This dead bird on the ground, it looks really fresh, freshly dead, and I just kind of marveled at this bird and these feathers, and the way that these feathers were laid out. And as I got closer, I heard this boy go, “Eww, gross.” And I just, I didn’t even care. I didn’t find it gross whatsoever. I just was magnetized to these feathers and this bird. And suddenly, now I was really paying attention. It was the same as when I saw CW on that stall, for Cloud Walker, I was paying attention, the feathers got my attention.

Candice Wu 42:55

As a little bit of backstory. Years ago, a medium told me that I was being guided by a shaman, a Native American shaman, guided by him and a grey feather. And that was how he would get my attention. And I, at that time, just didn’t know how working with my spirit guides worked. I didn’t have any connection with that, and I just thought that was just something people say, you know, just like if you find a penny on the ground or it was just something that would happen that could make you feel good. And it did. It made me feel good. I felt like something in me did believe that I was being guided, and slowly over time, my connection with this shaman man, medicine man has really supported me because it helps me to feel my sense of belonging with a soul tribe, belonging with healing and medicine, and here is this bird with all these gray feathers, like, “Jackpot!” But I mean, not great for the bird who’s died, but, “Whoa, this is sitting right in front of me.”

Candice Wu 44:13

And so, now that I’m paying attention, I decided to meditate in this cave, and this cave is gorgeous. It’s huge. There are many people in it. So, I sit down to meditate, and I was just flooded about five minutes and with tears with this feeling of home. This is my home. I know this place, mixed with my logical thoughts of, “Are you sure Candice? Do you really know that? How do you know that’s true? Are you just making this up?” Well, I’m feeling in my body, “Yes, this is home and you know it, you have been here. This is where the tribe and other tribes would gather. This is where we had fires. This is where we were together.” And I felt this clear knowing that sometimes I would dance by the fire here with my friend, with other women and girls, and that this wasn’t where I slept. This wasn’t specifically where I would be all the time, but it felt like such a gathering place.

Candice Wu 45:31

So, I let that move through me, let that settle, and as that settled, it still remained there like, “Yes, this is your home.” And it was a softer knowing that it was like, “Yeah.” And there was still a little bit of inner questioning, doubting like, “Really, really?” So, I continue on my way and walk on that trail, and I see this other little segment of a tiny cave that you kind of have to like, go to the side and in go up, and as I went into that space, I felt, “Oh, this is where I slept, sometimes.” This is really an intimate women’s space, and this is where I took feathers and I would make things, would make beautiful things, and I did do the beating, but it wasn’t my primary thing. Feathers were, birds and feathers were just so great and alive for me, not to mention that I was a hunter, and that wasn’t particularly what girls were meant to do, but I was a hunter and I really enjoyed hunting deer. And whenever someone hunted a bird and got a bird, I would be the first to be up there up close, seeing what feathers I could pluck and receive, and to honor the bird.

Candice Wu 46:53

So, I continue on this path again, and I just see a beautiful forest, and I’m getting a sense of a bigger picture. There’s this cave here, there’s a second little cave here, and I’m walking away from this cave. And the question came, which direction did I go when I left the tribe that night that I died?“ And as I looked in that direction I was walking, I could feel that it was, that was the way, and I immediately turned around and said, ”Wait, is that real?” And as I turned around, I felt I’m going home, I’m going home.

Candice Wu 47:44

And so, this back and forth, like, this was going away, and this was going home was so clear, and I had this flashback to the moment where when I was going to this cave, this area Ash Cave, I had texted my sister and said, “I’m going out by myself, I don’t know what I’m going to find, and if I don’t message you by dark, send a search party.” And that was a familiar experience in a way, like, send to someone if I don’t come back before dark, which is also a safety precaution, but I felt this moment of I’m coming home, and as I felt that in me, and I walked back towards the caves, I knew that what I was meant to receive that day was enough, and it was already completely magical enough, and I felt myself come home, walk home to my family, my tribe, my mother and my mothers, and I did that very consciously and almost ceremoniously, as a way to arrive back in honor of who I am and my sense of belonging, and all of the information that I’m receiving that as part of my belonging and who I am in this particular life and in that particular life.

Candice Wu 49:18

So, it was like a family constellation of my past life family, coming home to my mothers. So, want to make a little comments about the doubt in me because I had gone on a couple of other hikes during that camping trip, and use that as a bit of a measure or a test to see if other places would ignite the same kind of experience in me, and some of the places I went to were like two miles away or three or even eight and 11 miles away. I had the sense in those places that it was somewhat foreign, and that the land wasn’t the kind of land that I’ve lived on, but that sometimes I may have been passing through or hunting, but that would have been a long journey to some of those places, but the feeling of resonance wasn’t there. It was a completely different experience.

Candice Wu 50:22

Have you had any of these kinds of experiences? I’m curious, if you do lean in to trusting and believing what happens then, it’s like a choose your own adventure, like, for a long time, I chose to not believe certain things or not really embrace them in terms of knowing things I know, but maybe I can’t prove, but as I’ve deepened into trusting and knowing, and that has all come with my process of healing, and completing trauma and not being traumatized in my body, but feeling resourced and that embodied, that has all given me the access to these kinds of experiences where I can embrace knowing. So, have you had that experience or do you want to? Do you want to lean into some messages that you’re receiving or information that you’re unfolding in your life? Or little signs and cues that might lead you to the next breadcrumb.

Candice Wu 51:43

It just would be an interesting experiment if nothing else. What happens if you follow those gut, impulses that just last a split second? Is this the way to following your intuition? Is this the way to that deep, intuitive trust?

Candice Wu 52:04

So, I want to close today’s podcast with a poem I wrote that I actually wrote before I connected with the land and Hocking Hills Ash Cave, but completely connects. It’s called The Foolish Journey.

Candice Wu 52:23

I died three lifetimes ago. Silence screaming, innocence shed. Horse, you felt the knife in my uterus, our souls intertwined and bled. Father, frantic and furious blood of His blood, an unspeakable day. How dare white man take the heart of the Ojibwe? Sweet friend, we ran with stars in our pockets, you and me, swallowing moon in our bellies, foolish eyes, only beginning to see. Fierce and stubborn know themselves in me. How could this soul stay inside beaded lines? Mother cannot give life to look, the night forest and fire gave signs. A white man of the dark, I let this bond go. Who is more foolish? Pain asks to flow. Mothers of mother and white man, feather, father, horse and friend, I come home a new knowing. I am all of you, the beginning of that end. Soul of suns and moons ago, more life, I can now make. Wiser with more knowing, the foolish journey I would never not take.

Candice Wu 54:01

I’d love to hear your thoughts about this poem and what’s unfolding for me, and here if you have stories of your own, of what’s revealing to you, what your knowing is, and your experiences of past life. If this poem didn’t make any sense to you, it might be helpful to listen to the deep mystery of life episode where I talk about the story of what happened with the white man, with my father, with the horse — The Foolish Journey. That episode again is that CandiceWu.com/deepmystery, and it’s the first part of this second episode. And I hope that you enjoyed this, it’s really quite a story to tell, and it’s hard to tell all the pieces in a flow, and I’m developing this into a story of a piece where I’m going to submit it to a publication.

Candice Wu 55:03

So, hopefully, by then I have it a little more integrated in terms of how to thread all the pieces together, but isn’t that the way life is threading pieces together of who you are and finding the pieces that integrate into a larger hole. And if we have access to our past life experience, it gives us a large dimension of that opening of more. As I said all of this has given me more trust in my life, and I can feel even more energies that come from this past life, from the connections that I had, my family, my tribe, from nature. My ability to connect with nature is really much more turned on, as well as my connection with horses, and I am just so much more in myself and in my body.

Candice Wu 56:08

Thank you so much for listening to my story, and my sharing, and I appreciate that you’re there. And if you’ve listened all the way up to here, thank you, thank you so much. It’s such a gift to be seen and heard here and to also connect with you on your journey and interweave, and that’s how it even started with my friend Emily, where she just shared something that inspired her on my podcast, and we started talking and then eventually got on the phone together and revealed all this. I’m so grateful for you, Emily, and our continued friendship which it feels so deep already, even just after our show time of knowing each other in this life.

Candice Wu 57:04

Ah, and the last thing I want to mention is regarding signs. Sometimes, the signs come in opposite ways. I remember all through growing up and probably up until last year, I thought, “Who would ever want to go to Ohio?” Like nothing’s in Ohio, the cornfields, and I think that’s just what people say and I’m sure we could say that about a lot of states, but it was specifically Ohio, that I would talk that way about like it almost be like, “Oh, well.” It’s sort of like going to Ohio, if I wanted to describe a place that was completely boring and awful.

Candice Wu 57:46

So, I invite you also to tune into the things that you just randomly dislike or despise or talk badly about for no reason, and maybe you think you have a reason, but maybe you really don’t. That might be a really interesting place to look, and it only was when my brother Chad said, “Hey, I’m going to Hocking Hills, Ohio” And he showed me the pictures. He really had to show me the pictures to get me to think that that was an interesting thing to do. I had to be really proven. And so, look where we are now, I think Ohio is gorgeous, and after looking at the meaning of Ohio, it is the Iroquoian word for it is beautiful.

Candice Wu 58:40

So, I am humbled, and yes, that’s all for today. Thanks again for tuning in, and if you want to stay in touch with me through my bi-monthly newsletters, you can connect with that at CandiceWu.com/embody, and that’s where you’ll get all the updates of podcasts, experientials, and all sorts of other fun and nourishing tidbits on self-love and healing. And also, be sure to check out the transcripts on the podcasts that are at each podcast link. You can find all the podcasts and search through them at CandiceWu.com/podcast. And also, you can find specifically the meditations and experientials that are on the podcast. You can find those separately on a page that’s also searchable, the whole database of all of the meditations at CandiceWu.com/meditations.

Candice Wu 59:43

Looking forward to connecting with you next time on the Embody Podcast.

Candice Wu 0:00

In this episode, we have Francesca Mason boring who is a facilitator of family constellation, systemic constellation and nature constellation. And she asks the simple question, “Who is in this family?” In this episode, she talks about the earthy kind of sacred, the kind of sacred you can dig your toes into, as well as the ability to know that it’s always present within us, and how we respect and bring the ancestors into our healing process.

Candice Wu 0:31

Hello, and welcome. You’re listening to the Embody Podcast, a show about remembering and embodying your true nature, inner wisdom, embodied healing, and self-love. My name is Candice Wu, and I’m a holistic healing facilitator, intuitive coach, and artist, sharing my personal journey of vulnerability, offering meditations and guided healing support, and having co-creative conversations with healers and wellness practitioners from all over the world.

Candice Wu 1:07

This episode is sponsored by My Workshops. If you’d like to get a taste of family constellations work, there’s a workshop coming up on July 21, 2019, in Chicago, in Pilsen. It’s called Restore the Flow of Love, and it’s perfect for this episode as you’ll get a taste of family constellations from Francesca’s perspective. And you can come and join in and have your own personal constellation setup or come in and represent for other’s constellations.

Candice Wu 1:39

So, whether it’s something related to your family life, your love life, career, the way you experience the world, your joy, your emotional world, anything under the sun, we can work with constellations to support what is the hidden dynamic underneath it all, that may be wanting to emerge that you can be in the flow of your love, the flow of your ancestry’s love, and the flow of your life. So, much of our dynamics connect with the hidden experiences of our ancestry or dynamics that were silenced, things that did not want to be looked at before, that are still living with us now. So, if there was something tragic, difficult, a loss that was hard, or something that just didn’t want to be looked at the time, that can be connected with you and your life now and affect anything in your life.

Candice Wu 2:35

So, constellations is a way to look at those in an embodied way. allow those to resolve in an organic way, and then bring you towards the flow of love that assures you into life, with so much more of yourself. You can find this workshop at CandiceWu.com/flowoflove. If this date has passed, you can check out CandiceWu.com/events for other workshops that are coming up, and you can always check in with Francesca’s website to check out her workshops. I encourage you to reach out to her if you’re interested in having a taste of nature, constellations, and the way that she works.

Candice Wu 3:13

Welcome back, everyone. It’s fantastic to have you here. Today, we’re just going to jump right into the episode with Francesca Mason Boring. I love this episode, because there’s such a sweetness to the way Francesca speaks about her work, the way that she speaks about herself and the world. There’s such respect and appreciation. And I also feel a great reminder of our innate knowing, as well as the ability to heal in such a simple way of connecting with where we came from, to know where we came from, to know our roots, as well as to know the roots through nature, to connect with nature in a way that brings us to our resource, brings us to our strength as well as back to where we came from.

Candice Wu 4:05

Francesca is an author, international facilitator, teacher and lecturer and she works with Universal Indigenous Fields, Family Constellation, and has supported the development of constellation as ceremony, as community constellations, and nature constellations. Francesca has also graciously offered a piece of her writing called Family Systems Constellation and the Legacy of the Natural World Supporting Resilience. This is a beautiful piece of writing. Here’s one quote from her, “We embody belonging when we feel the ground.”

Candice Wu 4:42

She also speaks about how we are visitors on earth, and that this magnificent sphere here was here long before human beings. In this, she offers a couple of different meditations that you can practice and use on your own and offers a perspective of how to see life, how to see the opportunity of being on earth. You can find that at CandiceWu.com/francesca. So, without further ado, here is Francesca Mason Boring.

Candice Wu 5:15

I’m just thrilled to invite you, Francesca Mason Boring to the show today. Thank you so much for being here and welcome.

Francesca Mason Boring 5:23

Thank you, Candice. It’s really wonderful to be able to hear your voice, and I appreciate your program and all the good things you’re selling on your website and learn more about you. Thank you.

Candice Wu 5:34

Thank you. Same to you, Francesca, I love looking at your website. And I was so honored to meet you, I think it was to about two years ago at the North American Systemic Constellation Conference, Workshop or retreat, and got the chance to work with you. And I’m so inspired by your work and just your presence. And you are doing all sorts of constellation work, especially work with ritual and ceremony, and nature. And I love to just invite you to share how you see yourself on your journey now and where you are.

Francesca Mason Boring 6:16

Wow. Well, I, first of all, I feel very fortunate, I feel like this is a remarkable time that we’re living in. It seems as though it’s a time where we have a lot of different kinds of technology. For instance, we’re able to have this conversation and share with other people that we may never be lucky enough to meet in person. But we can still share from our hearts and really connect. So, we have all of those levels that are happening, and at the same time, I think that there is this remembering, a bringing back and a recalling, and embodying again, a lot of different elements of what we sometimes refer to as wisdom traditions.

Francesca Mason Boring 7:06

So, having the good fortune to encounter, first, was usually presented as family systems constellation. And then it really started to blossom, and there was origination constellations, and it felt very natural, very important, that nature also be included, both acknowledging our relationship to nature, but also really looking at what nature provides us in terms of nurturing and resources, and actual support. So, there are so many different variations now of constellation work, but when I encountered that it seemed so similar to many different Native American and other indigenous ceremonies. And so, it was just a really natural emergence that one began to, to really appreciate that there was the very real experience for many people that looking at families, and looking at connectedness, and looking at all the love stories, all the sad stories, in our own family stems was actually sacred.

Francesca Mason Boring 8:20

And so. that inner knowing, really allowed for a very easy, very organic kind of incorporation with a lot of wisdom traditions that had been in that space for a really long time, with a lot of care, and being aware of some kinds of cautions and elements of respect, and asking for permission to step into those fields. So, yeah, I find myself feeling, first of all, really fortunate to be at this time when we have these technologies, the ability to travel, to see other communities and other cultures, but also to be at a juncture where many of the mechanistic modalities are saying, it’s so we bake the pie without any fruit in it, we left something out. And so, that was kind of going back and saying, “Oh, yeah, the old recipes call for this kind of this element.” You know, that really allows us to feel like we really are full and cared for and has something that has a history in it.

Candice Wu 9:33

Oh!

Francesca Mason Boring 9:35

So, yeah.

Candice Wu 9:36

Oh, I love that. Yeah. And you’re just reminding me, before I jumped on the conversation, I thought, how do we want to open this space with you, Francesca? And I felt like I wanted to invite you to do that as well, but I felt very strongly that I wanted to hold the space and invite you and all of your ancestors and nature, and your connections and relations to this conversation if they would like to be, and also mine. Is there a way that you want to honor that or open the space?

Francesca Mason Boring 10:15

Primarily, by saying “thank you”, I really feel like that is such a good way to encounter anyone, and I thank you very much for that. It really reminds me in just such a gentle way that one of the things that I hope will eventually emerge, when you named all of that, when you name nature and when you where saying ancestors, and that the warmth of an invitation, one of the things that I really think there’s hope, there’s something very concrete and beautiful in constellation work, because I have a hope that at some point as more and more people in social work and psychology, medicine, teaching people who are working with human beings, I have really a hope that one of the things that will come out of systems constellation and systemic thinking is that everyone will be able to make that internal gesture.

Francesca Mason Boring 11:23

So, not just the invitation, but also that the other side of that coin is really acknowledging this incredible capacity so that when I see someone, even if I see them as a client, even if I see someone that maybe my conditioning says that’s a wounded person, or we have different terms, fragile, or all of those things, if I really see someone in context, see them held by nature, see them held and supported and a result of thousands of generations of people who pass life on, then I think providers would be able to take a breath, because that horrible feeling of weight, and responsibility and all the concerns that come when we’re conditioned to believe that someone is diminished by their experience or their fragility or their diagnosis, I really hold a hope that that kind of invitation that you expressed, which I so love, that if everyone had that perspective, particularly people who work with folks, that there would be something so much easier and what they’re doing so much, they would feel so much more supportive and know that whoever they encounter is very much supported as well. So, yeah, thank you so much for that.

Candice Wu 12:49

Absolutely. Thank you, Francesca. That is huge. I feel that when you said that, that we could just take a breath, naturally, with that knowing with that acknowledgment and recognition. And I remember when I first started working with constellations that, especially as a facilitator, I was aware of that mental idea, like drawing upon the resource of the family system, honoring it, and holding the space for it. But really having that from the inside and believing it, and letting every part of me be congruent with that, was that breath! It was that acknowledgment that there’s so much wisdom here that I know nothing of, perhaps. Perhaps I do, but that there’s so much resource there, right? That doesn’t weigh on me to bring forward, right? Yeah.

Francesca Mason Boring 13:53

Well, and the other part of that, I think that one of the things that’s been kind of an outcropping of that is genuine ahh, really when I think of how many people it took for us to be here, just the being able to kind of dance with history and all the miracles, and all the tragedies, and all of the things that have happened, that so many people had to get something right for us to be here, that is, I mean, some people almost overuse it. But I think it’s the term awesome, really, to be just filled with ahh. It really strikes me in that way. And I think, maybe that’s part of the interface with the sacred but a very earthy kind of sacred, I mean, the kind of sacred that you can dig your toes into. It just is so earth-based and so real, and I just, I love that. I really love that.

Candice Wu 14:55

Um, it’s really beautiful. And so, for people here, Francesca today listening, that aren’t aware of constellations and nature constellation, and systemic constellation, what would you say about that today?

Francesca Mason Boring 15:10

It is so beautiful. It is the first thing that I would say, and that’s kind of…

Candice Wu 15:16

Yeah.

Francesca Mason Boring 15:17

….sounds almost right. But actually, it’s a very beautiful modality that, again, it mirrors, many different traditions, many different kinds of traditional wisdom. So, family constellation, the end result is that for many people, it increases the flow of love within a family system. So, it’s very concrete, the end result for a lot of people is that there really is a sense of transformation in how I actually view people in my family system, because since the work really looks at families in a systemic way, we’re actually looking at people in context. So, we’re looking at what happened for this person to be anxious? Or what happened for this person to be angry? Or for this person to be mean? And when we look, we’re really looking from a larger lens, we’re looking actually from many generations, what is the cumulative effect of something that happened in a previous generation.

Francesca Mason Boring 16:37

So, in systems constellation, we actually place representatives for different people in a family system. When there is an issue, we identify primary people in that system who interface with that issue. And then there is this really lovely knowing that emerges in the people who represent, it can also be if someone represents the people that are involved in a conflict or some history of a family being stuck financially or emotionally, or even having some kind of repetitive, dynamic with illness. It can also be that rather than human representatives, placing people, if a person is doing it privately, one-on-one, you can simply use felt squares or some other elements, something akin to what people use when they do sanctuary work, that you can use other kinds of images to basically, spatially represent different people who are involved in a particular issue or conflict.

Francesca Mason Boring 17:50

And then there is a knowing that emerges, and this knowing is very organic, it’s very solid, very transformative. And this knowing is not anything that’s unfamiliar to people. I often give the example that if you, for instance, think about someone, a good friend or a family member, and you suddenly have them very much on your mind, and the phone rings, and you pick it up, and that’s the person on the other end of the phone. Or if you are in a grocery store, and you suddenly turn because you sort of feel like you’re being watched in your eyes meet someone who is just looking at you out of curiosity.

Francesca Mason Boring 18:32

So, we have all of these ways that we really are familiar with this kind of knowing, connectedness, that there is some way that we really have information about people around us, about folks that we’re connected to people that we care about. But what’s lovely is people that don’t know anything about us or know our family, actually can represent very accurately what particular dynamics are within that family system. So, there is this element of knowing and then we’re able to see the phrase that you used earlier, what is? We’re able to see what is the difference between what I believe or what I’ve constructed, and what is actually, what’s actually true, what is?

Francesca Mason Boring 19:23

For many people, that’s the point where there is a huge transformation. If I have believed something about family members for a long time, if I have a very conditioned history of a particular kind of family propaganda, where people tell a story about someone that made life easier, but that wasn’t really based in the truth, then there are times that I really that sense, again, of being able to breathe. It says though, that ability to know, is always present. So, if we have something in our family system that is not actually true, we don’t have necessarily a conscious knowing of that incongruity, but very often we will embody it, we feel tense, or we feel uncomfortable. There’s something that doesn’t flow.

Francesca Mason Boring 20:18

So, with family systems constellation, it really is lovely and that many people that have worked really hard, both providers and clients, who have worked really hard to try to unfold or unravel some point of confusion, all of those kind of cognitive methods, if they have sort of reached a dead end, and everyone is exhausted, then there’s something about this modality or this movement method, some people call it even a philosophy, this way of being able to see what is the hidden dynamic? What is it that we sort of have known in our body, but we were not able to conceptualize? And when that’s revealed in a constellation, for many people, it is incredibly transformative. It just is really lovely.

Francesca Mason Boring 21:14

And then, of course, it’s exciting that there are so many other disciplines that are emerging and understandings that are emerging right now, that again, somewhat market to those wisdom traditions. So, we have things like Quantum Physics and people who discuss and really investigate epigenetics, where we look at how is it that particular traumas in a family system, even activate genes that make us vulnerable to particular illnesses, and there are just so many places, morphogenetic fields that Rupert Sheldrake talks about. We’re really looking and seeing that there is this kind of connection that we have, that we have always had as human beings, that actually gives us access to a kind of healing, that doesn’t just come from being able to resolve things in a linear way.

Francesca Mason Boring 22:17

So. I don’t know if that’s the best description, I’m just so excited about how expansive and inclusive, and simple it is, that it really looks at who is in this family? And it says though, the family is so connected that one of the terms that folks use that that were a part of the family soul, that there really is this soul that says all of you are a part, all of you are a part of this family. And it doesn’t preclude or exclude, that people can have a variety of stories, that someone can have been adopted and loved, and cared for by someone else, other than their biological family, but the truth of the survival of this particular lineage is something that really does carry, apparently quite a bit with it in terms of field dynamics, biologically, emotionally, historically.

Francesca Mason Boring 23:21

So, this work actually looks at that, and particularly in the United States, when countries have immigration, when people are so separated because of the trauma of immigration or forced migration. When people are so separated from their lineage, this work really brings a sense of relief, and a remembering that everyone does come from someone, we really do have roots.

Candice Wu 23:49

It’s just such a sweet and appreciative practice, and even these simple words, we all do come from someone. It’s so loving, it just love. I love that you spoke about how simple it is, and who is here, who is in this family and who belongs here. And that makes so much sense that nature was calling you to just bring it into the fold, because it already is.

Francesca Mason Boring 24:26

Yeah.

Candice Wu 24:27

And yeah, and how does that, how do you see that showing up? Or when does it come in?

Francesca Mason Boring 24:34

Right. It shows up in so many ways. One of the things that I think is helpful is for me, and I think for a lot of people, it’s always been a source of information. So, in nature, for instance, there are animals in every species of nature, who, for whatever reason, may have the capacity to have a baby, but really do not have the impulse to take care of that infant or that newborn. And so, there are in lots of places in nature, the event where another animal who perhaps has had a child die, a foal die, or calf die, they actually will take care of someone else’s when that mother is, has died, or is not able.

Francesca Mason Boring 25:41

And so, when I would look at that, I would see that there’s no judgment involved. It really is. That’s what happens sometimes in nature, I think the same thing is true with human beings, that there are things that happen sometimes with people. And we have this element of judgment that does create this kind of secrecy or exclusion, or shame. But when we look at nature, there are so many things that just happen, and nature takes care of it, and so when it’s taken care of, it’s done. And there’s not all of the stigma or the paralysis that some people experience. So, one of the things I think that I find this a beautiful teacher is that the crippling element of judgment or shame is not embodied in many aspects of nature in the same way than it is with humankind. And so, I think that there’s a lot to learn by seeing that teacher, just that openness and that honoring life.

Francesca Mason Boring 26:52

And the other part is that, I think, perhaps informed by different indigenous traditions, I really do see nature as viable and interactive, and personal. So, it’s exciting that now, there are so many teachings that are also emerging in botany and other fields of biology, that really do point to this awareness, the trees talking with each other and interfacing with each other, even if it’s a biochemical conversation, rather than verbal conversation, that they actually are responding to each other and in contact. And I think that many indigenous traditions have this awareness of the capacity of nature to heal, not just in the aspect of many herbal practitioners who historically were in conversation with plants to see what would be helpful, but also the kind of like, and I can remember if it was Japanese, perhaps where they talk about tree bathing or nature bathing, saying that our bodies really respond differently when we are open to this kind of interface with nature.

Francesca Mason Boring 28:15

So, what’s lovely is in systems constellation, you’re able to actually introduce representatives for different elements of nature. So, if there is someone who has been severely traumatized, I remember one of the most touching experiences I ever had was someone who had really had so many horrific events in their lifetime, that I’ve seen some really masterful facilitators, they, this is too big for me. And, in fact, sometimes that’s what’s true. And somehow, there was this massive tree that came to my mind, and it was a tree that does exist, and it has been burned, it has been flooded, someone attempted to chop it down. Some folks may be aware of that tree, it’s on the coast, the western coast of the United States, but it just had been through so much, and it still has green coming out of it.

Francesca Mason Boring 29:22

So, in the constellation, we just placed a representative for this man and a representative for that tree. And that was the most heartful healing exchange, I think I’ve ever seen in my life, that this tree that has lived hundreds of years, has complete empathy, complete understanding, and could really teach something about resilience in a way that very few human beings could do. So, I think there are times that you can actually invite some element of nature into the family system or into the person’s own personal dynamic. And there’s just a capacity that is no human being lives several hundred years, but a tree can. So, yeah.

Candice Wu 30:15

I feel that now. I feel like the warmth and I almost feel sorrow, hearing that story. And I think we do, there’s something in us that knows that, you know, if we’re not having these experiences that really show us directly. In this way, there are other experiences where we feel that way, we feel some connection, and I love this. I don’t know how to describe it exactly. But just inviting this to be held in the space together, this man and this tree, there’s a bigger acknowledgment that allows a deeper, heartfelt experience, a deeper feeling, and the whole system, then the saying yes, nature has something to teach us. But to actually feel into it, and invite it like this, and that this happened. It’s beautiful. Thank you for sharing this story.

Francesca Mason Boring 31:18

Yeah, I felt so grateful, so grateful.

Candice Wu 31:22

It’s amazing. Oh, well, so Francesca, where are you now in your journey for yourself? And how constellations work has supported you or in your own walk?

Francesca Mason Boring 31:39

So beautiful. I feel really excited, I’m teaching a facilitator training, and have been doing those for some time, they’re 21 days, and it’s really wonderful that many of the people who have a really serious interest in being able to incorporate this into their work, whether they be teachers or even engineers, or people that are involved in architecture, or people that have a background in Shamanism, or psychotherapy or medicine of many, many different aspects, massage therapy, there are more and more people who are really wanting to be able to integrate constellation work into their own practice and into their own discipline.

Francesca Mason Boring 32:35

So, I feel very happy to be giving a training in Maryland. It’s just wonderful, the people that have come together, and then next year, I’ll give a training in Los Angeles. And it’s just a really exciting thing to know that each of the people who participate in that training, will be able to introduce family systems constellation and systemic thinking in a way that I never could, They’ll interface with people that I would never be able to share with or encounter. So, it really is expanding the reach of the work.

Francesca Mason Boring 33:14

I just finished a small book on family systems constellation. And it’s in the company of good people, and it’s just a small book, but part of my journey is that writing is something that really helps me to be able to integrate, and to be able to try to understand what I’m learning, what people are teaching me, what the work is teaching me. So, that book just came out, maybe a month or so ago, and that made me really happy. They always take their own time to come into the world, but that’s done, and it’s very sweet. I just sometimes books turn out to be something very different than what I expected. And I look at it and think, where did you come from?

Francesca Mason Boring 34:09

With this way, it’s just something really, really sweet. So, I felt really happy about that.

Candice Wu 34:15

Congratulations! It’s…

Francesca Mason Boring 34:18

Thank you.

Candice Wu 34:18

I saw that, it looks beautiful. And…

Francesca Mason Boring 34:20

Thank you so much.

Candice Wu 34:21

…..it does look very sweet.

Francesca Mason Boring 34:23

Yeah, it’s just a really, really nice feeling. But I think that one of the things, the primary seed was that I realized that many of the people who began family constellation work, predominantly folks from Germany and Europe, originally. But I realized how many of those people had been in long term partnerships. And also, how many of those people had been, dear friends, almost all in excess of 30 years. So, I thought this was a really a very unusual greenhouse. That folks that began this work were so committed to the difference that the depth, which with people could feel connectedness, to the people that they cared for.

Francesca Mason Boring 35:18

And I, as I was just kind of doing a meditation, one day, I realized that that greenhouse or that shared ability, that shared capacity for love and connection, not that they never had any conflicts, I’m sure, but just the ability for such a large group of people to really have this history and this capacity for connection is, I think, perhaps in large part, what really fostered their commitment, when they saw the way that this work could open doors for people and open hearts. They really, viscerally knew what can come from that. And so, that was kind of the springboard for the little book, but it just really came out of acknowledging the love that shows up, and that blossoms out of constellation work is just so expansive. But when I realized that the love between all of those people originally was in large part, part of the story of the gestation of that, that seed, I thought, this is really, I just want at least to say that I could see that.

Candice Wu 36:40

Mmmm.

Francesca Mason Boring 36:42

So sweet.

Candice Wu 36:43

I didn’t know that. Thank you for sharing that.

Francesca Mason Boring 36:45

Yeah, so sweet.

Candice Wu 36:46

Such a beautiful story. Yeah. Beautiful, knowing about all of those, all of the people that were that convicted in this depth of work.

Francesca Mason Boring 36:56

And then I think that the other part into terms of what’s happening is that I give workshops and a number of places, my focus, much of the time tends to be trainings, but I occasionally give workshops. And there again, I can see that the expanse, the variety of the disciplines of people who are interested in how this work can inform them and support them. Because I think that’s, I think many people who do really great work with other human beings are tired, they’re so exhausted, they’re so hurt, I guess you could say, by the inability for their toolkit to intervene in the way that their heart knows, is possible.

Francesca Mason Boring 37:59

And so, to have this wider prospect, that actually does seem to clear a lot of wounding that other modalities have not been able to clear for many is really heartening. And it also lightens their load, so that when folks realize how much support they have, and when they’re able to connect again with that and connect again with their own family and their own story, their own roots. It’s very strengthening. So, they, again, are reminded that they’re not alone, whatever they’re doing in the world, they do have support, they do have a lot of this huge legacy of other folks in their system who were able to really press on, make the grade, laugh. Because I think that’s one of the things that I enjoy, that for many people, there’s a kind of a lightness that is different than what they’ve been able to experience people. So, yeah, I feel really lucky.

Candice Wu 39:18

Yes, yes, me too. I feel that as you’re speaking it to, with people that I work with, that are experiencing it, and as you’re talking, I thought of something that was on your website. And it’s this, it says on your website, “Although Family Constellation may be therapeutic, this indigenous woman does not present it as therapy.” and that you described this method as one of the most profoundly beautiful healing paths that can be taken. And this work for you is the extension, an extension of ceremony, a road of indigenous healing. And somehow, as you’re speaking, this quote of yours came up in me and it kind of clicked, at least for me, I’m not sure if this is how you would represent it. But as you’re speaking about sharing this work, and how powerful it can be for anyone in any trade, who is doing something out there in the world, and being in community, being in family, or being in work, systems, that this work isn’t limited to the idea of therapy and healing, necessarily, that it can spread out into their lives as something so, is a way of being that supports them and the world around them.

Francesca Mason Boring 40:48

Absolutely. Well, and I think that one of the things, the integration, or the personification of that, as you so often referred to embodiment, and so, I love that so much because I think that that’s what fundamentally changes for so many people, that their sense of belonging and their sense of connectedness becomes really very embodied. So, in fact, they truly are transformed, they really do have just been physically, their presentation, I guess you would say, of being someone who belongs can be really quite visible.

Francesca Mason Boring 41:37

And so, that really has amazed me, what has amazed me is how much people can embody, what transforms in terms of their definition of who they are, and where they come from, and how much they represent resilience and capacity. And that is just so different, because we have so many modalities that are focused on pathology. And this really is looking at capacity. And so, when people are doing a constellation, they’re not looking at what is my disability, but rather, what is my capacity, and what are all the abilities of all of these people who came before me, that allowed this to happen. So, there really is a difference in that way.

Francesca Mason Boring 42:33

And the other part of it is that I feel really fortunate in that many of the workshops that I’ve given, I began in a very rural community. And so, the nature of the community really is such that people who were farmers or truck drivers, or teachers, or doctors, or single moms, a really wide variety of different backgrounds could come and really have the same depth of experience. So, one of the reasons I become so excited when many more people become interested in this work is that it really will continue to expand who has access to this. And I have really a strong sense that when it becomes part of everyone’s language, and every practitioner or caregiver or human service worker, or teacher or foster parent, when everyone has access to this, then…

Candice Wu 43:42

Absolutely.

Francesca Mason Boring 43:43

….then I think that’s going to be incredible. And that’s my hope. I don’t think it hurts to really dream big. But I do have the hope that that would happen.

Candice Wu 43:52

It’s a lovely dream.

Francesca Mason Boring 43:53

Yeah.

Candice Wu 43:54

It’s a beautiful dream.

Francesca Mason Boring 43:55

Yeah, I hope that it happens.

Candice Wu 43:58

Me, too.

Francesca Mason Boring 43:59

Me, too.

Francesca Mason Boring 44:02

That’s encouraging.

Francesca Mason Boring 44:04

That’s encouraging.

Candice Wu 44:05

Yeah, well, and it’s seeing ourselves with that capacity and the expanse of who we are beyond this body and being, beyond the lineage even, beyond what we can see. And when you spoke about the shaming and judgment that we place upon ourselves, that nature doesn’t, there, that really brings it to the forefront, that if we are in this way of being and way of walking in the world, and seeing, then how could we, how could we have sham?. And I also acknowledge that we could, but there’s something so pure about what the truth is underneath it, right? That there’s so much there, resilience and just being in who we are.

Francesca Mason Boring 44:54

That is so beautiful, and I think that’s perhaps the transformation that when we do walk outside in the trees, you can really have a sense that there is no judgment. And people began to really conceptualize and embody that sense of being a part of ancestry and having ancestors, then there’s also this perception that really, at that juncture, all that’s left is love, and we represent the survival of so many. And so, there really is no space where there would be judgment, it’s rather just this deep breath and this, that in some ways, we are the reward of everything that they endured, everything that they lived through, or lived with.

Francesca Mason Boring 45:54

And so, one of the things that seems to be really remarkable is that there is something about this multiple generations and being able to really include and to look at this expanse of lineage that really does bring to the fore, this sense that as far back as our lineage goes, there’s love that flows to us. And so, whether it’s a metaphor or whether it’s someone’s reality, it really does seem to have a transformative effect and seems to be something that people embody, when they’ve experienced a family constellation. So, it’s really, it’s really hopeful.

Candice Wu 46:45

It’s really powerful and its, that’s very expansive.

Francesca Mason Boring 46:50

So nice.

Candice Wu 46:51

Thank you. Yeah. And so in your personal journey, what are you tussling with? What are you feeling the learning about? Right now, I just recently had an experience with someone very close to me, that I could feel the convergence of our lineages coming together, through us. And, like white European family background, on the other side of me, and my Chinese American, having immigrated, my parents having immigrated, and there was this feeling of, can you hold my complexity, and it felt so ancestral related that my family came here to America, and wondered that and perhaps was wounded in a lot of ways or felt fear about that. And that was a great healing for me, where I converged with this person. And so, that’s alive in me now. And it’s so fitting, we’re having this conversation. So, I just wondered, if you would be open to sharing anything that you’re looking at.

Francesca Mason Boring 48:11

So beautiful. Well, I think that the conversation that you just spoke to, is definitely something that comes up in family constellation, and of course, it’s a part of my life. I have a very multicultural family. And so, in many respects seeing how others may be challenged in navigating that, is something that I’ve, perhaps that has always been one of my interests, because my mother is Shoshone, which is a Native American tribe and native speaker, and her family has been very involved in particularly historical aspects of tribe and still have a lot of different awareness of tribal practices and things like this. And I have a very large family. So, I’m one of seven children, my mother was one of 10 children. So, on that side of the family, there are quite a few people that I have as relatives.

Francesca Mason Boring 49:18

And then my father is Caucasian, and is descendant of immigrants from Lithuania, and also from Scotland and Ireland. So, the cultural differences were really extreme. But it was wonderful, because I could see that we really don’t all grow up with the same fairy tales. So, from very early on, I feel fortunate, and each of my parents, perhaps, because they were culturally so different, most of their friends were also bicultural. So, my growing up was kind of nurtured by this beautiful puzzle of seeing how different cultures could be and their beliefs and their practices. And so, always having really a care and caution to see what is permitted here, what is allowed here, what is comfortable for people here, because it can differ so much from place to place.

Francesca Mason Boring 50:28

So, I think that that’s, when you speak to that I can’t help but have a very strong resonance because that expansion of cultures has continued to expand and my family, so, we have, when I describe it, it just is it’s interesting learning. So, that we’re all careful of all of the different traditions of each of these people that come into our family.

Francesca Mason Boring 50:53

And for me, personally, my challenge in the moment has been that I really have had this very strong sense that I need to become comfortable or more aware of technology. And it’s actually very deep and very personal. I had a dear friend and coordinator, and colleague, Anatosh Fu, who was a facilitator, and she died last May. But we traveled for many years together, and she really saw an expanse in this work and also held this vision that in a perfect world, this will be accessible, easily accessible to everyone at some point. And so, literally on her deathbed, what she said was, “You have to get used to your cell phone, and you have to become friends with technology.” Literally, when people thought she does not have another breath left in her body, that was her last teaching for me. So…

Candice Wu 52:07

Fo you. Oh, my goodness.

Francesca Mason Boring 52:09

So I really…

Candice Wu 52:11

That was an important message.

Francesca Mason Boring 52:11

Yeah. So, I really held that, and then of all things this past winter, I did a really wonderful, I had a wonderful invitation from the Shift Network and did a Zoom conference, and had another lovely invitation from a woman by the name of Towel Shy, who has this wonderful soul movement. And again, that is Zoom, and now here we are on this podcast. And so, I’m really committed to learning all of these things that actually will make constellation work more available, more accessible, more known for as many people as possible. And so, it’s really a wonderful challenge, and it’s funny, I mean, I can’t help but a lot of times end up laughing because there are just so many different things involved. And I actually, it’s interesting, because I am trying to equate it with the complexity of nature, that really, nature is very complex. But when we really hold it just in its expanse, then it seems very contained.

Francesca Mason Boring 53:35

So, I’m trying to find a way that I can get my computer and this Zencastr and podcast, and Zoom and these different things that plug-in there and don’t plug-in here. I’m trying to see like, how do I hold them all in a way? You know that nature is. How do I begin to experience it, you know, as an organism or as energy? I think that that’s the thing that I’m really trying to find like how, how do I come to the place where I can say, you know, really this as everything and anything else is in service? And so how do I have? I think I’m trying to befriend it. But I’m waiting for the reciprocity where I have this actual visceral sense that it’s also embracing me.

Candice Wu 54:36

Yeah, yeah.

Francesca Mason Boring 54:37

So, that, you know, so that’s my challenge, and it’s, it’s really wonderful. I’ve just discovered people as teachers, that I would not have perceived as being that patient or specific. It’s been really a big challenge and adventure. And it is, I think, it happens in life a lot of times that there’s someplace where there’s an open door. And so, does one just look at it, or how do we navigate it? Do we go in the door with someone else? So I’m just kind of negotiating that and seeing that somehow this has become part of my journey, and it’s so unlikely. But…

Candice Wu 55:29

Wow!

Francesca Mason Boring 55:30

….but such an adventure.

Candice Wu 55:31

Yeah, and you’re here.

Francesca Mason Boring 55:33

Yeah.

Candice Wu 55:33

Yeah. True, true confessions into context. Yeah, and I just had this dream that, is there a constellation waiting for you with technology being representative?

Francesca Mason Boring 55:48

You know, I really, I could see that, and I could also see that there’s this loving element to it. Because the end result and the encounters that I’m having are a surprise, really just a beautiful, transformative surprise. So, what that means in terms of my own capacity, I don’t know, but just this the sense of it, the experience of it is really unexpected. Unexpected because I was just really so in the dark, but little by little, so yeah, it’s interesting that it could be such a challenge.

Candice Wu 56:33

Beautiful. I don’t think you’re alone in that challenge. I think that’s, but to give it that honoring is really something.

Francesca Mason Boring 56:43

Yeah, yeah.

Candice Wu 56:45

Thank you.

Candice Wu 56:46

So beautiful.

Candice Wu 56:49

Well, we’re coming to the end.

Francesca Mason Boring 56:52

Yeah, I feel really good.

Candice Wu 56:54

Yeah. You feel really good?

Francesca Mason Boring 56:56

Yeah, that we actually did…

Candice Wu 56:58

I, me, too.

Francesca Mason Boring 57:00

So really so sweet.

Candice Wu 57:02

Me, too.

Francesca Mason Boring 57:03

So sweet.

Candice Wu 57:04

It is, I…

Francesca Mason Boring 57:05

Thank you so much.

Candice Wu 57:06

…so enjoyed this conversation and hearing your voice and hearing your wisdom come through. And there’s a resonance that when you said, energetic, that technology is energetic, I feel that and I also feel the transmission of your energy across the vessel of technology here. And I’m so glad, I thank you for sharing with me and with everyone that’s listening in going to be listening here. It’s such a gift.

Francesca Mason Boring 57:38

Well, thank you so much. And actually, I’m gonna really hold that word vessel because I think that’s, that is so helpful, because the work and the technology, the way that we’re moving in life, it really is like some kind of vessel like a big canoe or boat that somehow is really taking us in this really beautiful stream that holds us. And because I do think that nature is alive and conscious, I think that the water that’s carrying us is carrying us well, with good intention, and a lot of love.

Candice Wu 58:23

Thank you for that.

Francesca Mason Boring 58:24

Thank you, Candice.

Candice Wu 58:26

Oh, you’re so welcome, and is there anything else you want to share today before we close?

Francesca Mason Boring 58:32

Oh, just thanks and gratitude for your work. And yeah, just the hope of eventually, everyone is able to experience family systems constellation or one of the many beautiful applications of constellation work. It’s becoming more and more accessible, and I think when folks just google family constellation, there are lots of places where you can find workshops or groups of club center coming together exploring. And now, there are so many wonderful books, I really appreciate how many books are available, and I love reading. There are just a lot of beautiful books.

Francesca Mason Boring 59:16

So, if I maybe could leave people with, I mean, definitely my books, you can just put Francesca Mason Boring, and go to Amazon, and there’s a list of books but there are a couple of other books that I think there are so many. But there’s one that I think is really lovely, that sort of holds the essence, and it’s a book by Bert Hellinger, and it’s called No Waves without the Ocean. And I think there are so many, that if I were just to say which ones have I loved, I really could talk for a long time. But in terms of self, that really has the essence and it’s just a lovely, lovely book. No Waves without the Ocean by Bert Hellinger is really, really beautiful. So, that might be something.

Candice Wu 1:00:13

That’s beautiful. Thank you for sharing. Yeah. And where can people find you and your workshops? And you mentioned your books on Amazon, but I think they’re also connected on your website?

Francesca Mason Boring 1:00:26

Yes, yes, yeah. And it’s just AllMyRelationsConstellations.com, and relations and constellations are both plural. So, it’s just AllMyRelationsConstellations.com. And there, I have my workshops. There are also some nice resources for people. There’s a place where folks can get books that are about constellation work, not just mine, but books about constellation work. And then there’s a really nice link that actually is great for people in the US who may have family overseas, there’s a link to something that’s called Talent Manager.

Francesca Mason Boring 1:01:13

And that’s something that a gentleman has just given as a gift. He’s been kind of pulling this together for many years, and there are links for many countries in the world that tell you where you may be able to find a facilitator of family constellation. So, that’s one of the links that’s also provided on my website.

Candice Wu 1:01:38

Wonderful.

Francesca Mason Boring 1:01:39

So, that if someone has been to a constellation and they have family in Spain, or they have family in Mexico, they can pop that up and see who might be there for the rest of their family or friends that they have that are in other countries.

Candice Wu 1:01:54

Beautiful. What a good resource.

Francesca Mason Boring 1:01:56

Yeah. So nice. And keeps growing. So, that’s really beautiful.

Candice Wu 1:02:02

Yeah. Wonderful, Francesca, thank you so much. I’m just in deep gratitude of you sharing and being here today and being out in the world and walking the way you do. Thank you so much.

Francesca Mason Boring 1:02:18

Thank you, Candice, this is really been a joy. And thank you for your support in helping me navigate just the mechanics of being able to have this exchange. My heart has really felt good about the time that we got to have.

Candice Wu 1:02:35

Wonderful.

Francesca Mason Boring 1:02:36

So, Thank you.

Candice Wu 1:02:37

Thank you.

Candice Wu 1:02:40

It’s been such a pleasure to have Francesca on the show. I just loved talking with her and hope that you enjoyed listening just as much. Tune in to, check out her meditations that she’s offered in her piece of writing of family constellation and the legacy of the natural world supporting resilience. You can find that PDF file on the website at CandiceWu.com/francesca.

Candice Wu 1:03:06

So, as we close today, I just like to end with the idea that the ability to know is always present. This is Francesca’s quote, and it’s just so poignant because there are so many different ways of knowing, it’s not just a mental knowing that we’re after. We want to know who we are in our bodies, want to know the next step of our lives. We want to know what’s happened inside of ourselves when we feel a certain emotion, and this reminder that the ability to know is always present is so powerful because, with love, gentleness, and patience, we can see what’s there for us, we can receive the answers from within.

Candice Wu 1:03:51

Thank you so much for joining us today. It’s been such a pleasure. If you’d like to connect in with other podcasts or other guests, and experientials and meditations, you can find all that at CandiceWu.com/podcast. And you can also sign up for the bi-monthly newsletter where you’ll get updates about the podcast, updates about events, also, my travels and self-love notes. Find that at CandiceWu.com/embody.

Candice Wu 1:04:22

It’s been great to have you today, and I look forward to seeing you next time on the Embody Podcast.