For a long time, I didn’t believe I was enough or good enough. In my young years, I felt I had to accomplish in order to feel good enough and seen. Over the years, I learned that this belief came with me from before this lifetime and also had its match with what I inherited through my ancestors before me. All that is a long story, and is part of a healing process that we can utilize to heal this belief at a very deep level.

But now, after many years of healing work and loving myself bit by bit, some of the remnants of my “not enough” beliefs come through. I don’t see this as a setback, but as an offering of my soul to bring forward more parts of me that believe old mistruths to be healed.

But today let’s explore how you might be able to support yourself in feeling enough if you also have this belief that you are not.

Feeling that we are enough can give us contentment, love, and peace within ourselves. It can give the space for us to do so much more from a place of love, not fear. It can allow us to enjoy our experience and who we are.

Sometimes we believe we aren’t enough unless we do or achieve a specific thing, or because we aren’t a certain way or have a certain quality in us. What does “being enough” mean to you? Does the part of you that has a negative belief of you “not being enough” have a different definition?

The truth is, we are all enough because we exist and are alive. No matter what we do or how we are, we cannot gain more enough-ness. What we do and achieve is separate from who we are at our core. It is possible to not do enough, but that doesn’t make us not enough. You are enough.

Try this Self-Love Exercise – a Family Constellation and Somatic Experiential – to support you in transforming your nervous system to calibrate to the belief that You Are Enough.

Reflection Exercise: I am Enough

• Picture someone you feel is “enough” in your eyes. Maybe that is a friend or animal, someone you witness from afar, or a loved one.
• Feel into your sense of them that they are enough.
• Now, imagine them looking towards you with the same feeling that you have for them – that you are enough.
• Be curious about and notice how you feel as you visualize this. Notice the sensations in your body and any emotions, impulses, or movements. Stay with this for as long as it feels manageable and take a break when you need one. Allow yourself to feel what you feel.
• Lastly, feel into this idea: If they feel you are enough, and you feel you are not enough, then you send a feeling that they are not enough. Consider that, if you are not enough, neither are they. If they are enough, then you must be too.
• Notice your reaction to this. Let anything you notice be information to take in.
• Let go of everything and just feel your body, your feet, your hips, and breath.

Thank yourself for taking the time to practice this! You are supporting yourself in feeling that you are enough and that also can give you more space to enjoy life, do things out of pleasure and playfulness, and love yourself. As always, be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to be exactly where you are with this.

 

Featured Photo by chen lei on Unsplash

Photo by Hello I’m Nik on Unsplash